Hey guys, I’m sorry that it took so long for me to write this post! Without any further ado to add to my tardiness, here is what happens when it is time for our dear one to apply for a New Level!
After our boy has earned the required amount of weekly signatures to be able to apply for his goal level, it is time for him to start the Level Application process. This will consist of several steps.
The first step in the Level Application process will be for him to ask to meet with us. In this meeting, we will discuss his progress and allow him the opportunity to request an application form. If he does, we give him either a yes or no, depending on if we think that he has progressed enough for the application or not. This is not a negotiation- it is a firm decision that we give him and don’t argue over. If the answer is no, must wait one more week’s worth of signatures before meeting with us again. If the answer is yes, we will provide him with a Level Application form.
We have three pages in this form. The first is an explanation of the process and how to fill out the rest of the application. This is what our Level Applocation form says:
“Congratulations! You have earned the privilege of applying for Level ___! You have received 6 weeks’ worth of signatures on successful days. Remember, please, that this is not a guarantee that you have reached Level ___ at this time. You still must go through the application process, and may have to apply more than once before actually reaching Level ___. If you do not acheive Level ___ at this time, you will need to apply the suggestions given to you, earn one week’s worth of signatures for successful days, and then request another application.
On the Essay page, please tell those whom you are going to ask for signatures as part of your application for Level ___ why you believe that you have earned Level ___, how you believe you have grown as a person, and three specific ways that you hope to continue to improve while on Level ___ in order to reach Level ___. This should be at least 3 paragraphs of 5 sentences each.
After writing the essay, please take the Signatures form personally to each individual listed, share your essay with them, and request a signature of agreement on you having earned the privilege of Level ___. We will need to be your final signature. Listen to all requested signer’s reasoning on why they agree or not. Accept that decision and, if you have received feedback on ways to continue improving, please consider carefully how to practice it. It is recommended that you speak with each signer every time you apply, even if you have already been unable to earn one person’s signature; so that you know all of the ways that you need to be improving for your next application. If you are unable to obtain all required signatures, wait one Successful Week and request a new application. If you need to apply a second time; when you return to each designated signer the second time, you will need to discuss with them how you worked to improve in the ways that they suggested to you. After requesting these signatures, ask to meet with us to see if you have earned Level ___.”
After the first page will be an essay page, followed by a signatures page. These signatures are from important people that have an authoritative role in our dear one’s life. Including our signatures, we have chosen church mentors, therapists, family members that are heavily involved, psychiatrists, and teachers. We considered our chosen signators carefully. The people to sign off are consistently involved and invested in our boy. They also care that he makes his goal, and maintain the ability to be objective in their decision on signing. These signatures are to enable the final decision to be made by taking into account the opinion of many leaders; ensuring that he is working hard to better himself fully.
We, as our boy’s caregivers, will deliver the final signature and decision on the Level Up. This is so that the privileges and rewards that have been earned are coming directly from the ones who should rightfully be the top authority in our boy’s eyes. So that the decision can be delivered clearly in a unified way, my mother and I discuss our final decision before meeting with him.
This discussion is held calmly and with encouragement. If he is unable to Level Up, we discuss with him why he did not. We give him at least one way that he can use the following Successful Week to continue to improve in order to prepare for applying again.
When he is able to Level Up, we will talk with him about why he was able to and congratulate him! When he hits his Level Up, we will CELEBRATE! This process has been long, and the rewards hard-earned, so we want to show him that it was worth it!
What was one of your favorite things that your dear one has earned through hard work? Please share with me below!
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